When you’re up to do a wedding speech, preparation is key! Successful wedding speeches have certain elements in common. And while we all have varying degrees of comfort with public speaking, there are some tricks that will make your speech awesome no matter what. Check out the tips below to make yours something that will be remembered – for all the right reasons!
Humour is the best medicine
Funny is good. Laughter makes people happy and it makes them like you. As such, do start the speech off with some appropriate humour to get people tuned in and laughing with you. This will ensure attention throughout the speech. Share a joke or anecdote appropriate for your audience! Remember, if the bride’s grandmother is there, ask yourself WGFTF (would granny find this funny)?
Emotions run deep
Once you’ve softened all the guests up with your wit, hit them with your wisdom. Your job is to make everyone experience the full range of emotions from laughter to tears. Follow up your funny moment with a more serious one where you ponder the deeper meaning of this joyous occasion. Answer such deep emotional questions such as: What does it mean to find love in your life? Or maybe ask more tangible ones: What does it mean that the bride has found love in her life? Quotes from songs or poems can be helpful for said “deep” effect.
When you say nothing at all
If you don’t have something nice to say, you probably shouldn’t be giving a speech at a wedding. But you have been chosen to do so, so I’m sure you have something nice to say about both the bride and the groom and their relationship. Don’t forget to include it at some point. It’s like forgetting to thank your husband/wife at the Oscars. For one thing, you might be gaining a SIL or BIL, so start things off on the right foot by welcoming him or her to your family.
Not too long
Don’t let minor details like being wasted or rambling on ruin your big speech. The two-drink, five-minute maximum rule will keep you in check. Make sure you’ve only had two drinks before giving your speech. That’s enough to feel a warm buzz, but not too much to have you slurring your words and making untoward jokes. Also, keep things short and sweet. Five minutes is the perfect amount of time for a wedding speech – long enough to feel satisfying, short enough to keep guests from dozing off. Remember to enlist someone at your table to be your time keeper and give you a discreet signal when you are approaching your five minute mark.
Preparation, not inspiration
Here’s probably the most important tip. How many times have we delivered a brilliant version of a song into our shower head or the best speech of our lives into our bedroom mirrors? Many. But that doesn’t count because no one was there to bare witness. While we may be truly inspired when we are alone in our bedrooms, don’t count on it while standing in front of 150 guests at your brother’s wedding. There’s no shame in using notecards. In fact, if you don’t you may be delusional. Write that sucker down. Be prepared!
There’s our tips for the perfect wedding speech. Hopefully they are helpful for you in your quest to prepare a wedding speech to remember. So get out there and get crackin’!