Tying the knot again comes with its own bag of issues to tend to – and it’s worth keeping this in mind as you plan your new future together, as the second time round is often not any easier. It’s a lot of work unraveling the intricacies of a remarriage and how to get through it together…
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Let bygones be bygones
Whatever your past relationship or marriage was – however it started and ended – ultimately it has to be completely dead and done for before you even consider starting anew. Still, it does get harder to let things go as we grow older. We over-analyze our mistakes and end up too paralyzed in fear to move forward.
Just remember the valuable lessons you have learned – and carry on with your life.
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One with the family
As partners and parents, we have been juggling our roles to ensure the smooth operation of the family unit. Unfortunately, when a marriage ends – especially when there are children involved – a new marriage can never truly begin unless you find a way to be comfortable with one role without the other.
First, you can start by learning how to trust your children, sharing with them in entirety the hows and whys involved in the decision to embark on this new journey of yours. Encourage and allow them to take part in it with you, not just as someone coming along for the ride.
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Grow with others
If it gets too much, why not try to seek help and advice from relatives or friends who have gone through the throes of remarriage? While it might be a touchy subject for some, many would be happy to help a friend or relative in need.
Get together and ask them for ideas to solve problems you are stumped on; a fresh perspective often helps. Also, having gone through similar issues themselves, they should readily understand. Make a list of things bugging you the most and go through it with them. (more…)
